Not saying there is no hope, I just thinking giveing in to unhealthy life choices is unwise.
My ex room mate, now my downstairs neighbor has gone the way of morbidly obese again. He now knows this is a choice and not because he has "given up" on himself. He finally joined my gym, a year ago now, and I think he's gone about twice per month (NOT twice a week), he then, a good part of the time, goes up the city to drink and sometimes eat and drink as a "treat" for his hour barely breaking a sweat. He's gone from a svelt (for him) 222 lbs, 42 inch waist up to a 46 and around (from eyeing him, he won't tell me) 270 lbs or so, climbing back up there. He drinks often again, the last 5 times I've talked to him by phone, his words slur at times or he talks too much (dead give away for him) when he's high and he reeked the times I've seen him. How quickly one forgets his lessons. 46, grossly overweight, depressed and lonely. He's a nice guy but he really should have been straight, gotten married, raised some kids and just had a little life where he originally came from. He gets so overwhelmed and pissy when the world is not "cooperating" with him. As he says "God hates me". Pretty sad really!! Personally I don't think he makes a very good gay man with his personal upkeep (surroundings and all) or his attitude. I'm being an ass by saying that but he thinks it's so frustrating living his life but it's just as hard on those that are concerned for his well being and attitude and there is nothing you can do about it but watch and pray that the light will dawn some day!
Being a little overweight is fine, it's natural for most but in my friends life .... well that's just lazy and not a smart way to live life, especially after the big wake up call a year ago now!!
All the best to all of you, sorry I haven't been around. Busy in the 3D community.
Richard (aka
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