For what it's worth, I'm 49 and the best friends I've made have been after I turned 40. I made them through a writers group, a comic book creators group, and church.
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Ugh. I hate having to make friends. The worst part is that the more you're actually intentionally trying to make friends, the less likely it is that your going to end up making genuine friends.
But, really, the best thing is, as HWW suggests, find activities you're interested in, and get involved.
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Get involved in something larger than yourself and don't focus on your own wants and needs so much.
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... I just got used to having less friends.
<--- grumpy cat.
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Why can't I find a good free movie on the internet to watch!
From: Ninja Land | Registered: Nov 2004
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Well, you know what they say: Outside of a dog, a book is one's best friend. And inside of a dog, it's too dark to read.
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I've also found myself drifting apart from childhood friends, and friends I've made in college, due to lack of shared interests and values. I just genuinely find that we don't have much to talk about anymore. On the other hand, my childhood friends are among the first people I'd go to if I really were in a major bind.
I hate having to meet new people too - most just turn into acquaintances who clog up your social networking sites but whom you will probably just talk to once a year to exchange birthday greetings
I guess the best thing is, as others have suggested, to get involved in activities you genuinely find interesting. Then choose which relationship to keep maintaining.
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quote:Originally posted by Conjure Lass: HOW THE HELL DO YOU MAKE NEW FRIENDS IN YOUR 30's?!! HOW!?
(This does not apply to all of you, as it really *has* been nice to make new online pals)
People tell me all the time that I need to make new friends and maybe go out on a date. How does one DO that? Where do I go to meet these new and exciting people?
That's it...I'm doomed. Label me Forever Alone.
(Thanks for letting me indulge in that pity party, thanks.)
I agree with what others have said. You just have to get out to places where other people are likely to have shared interests with you, and then see what happens. There's no "winning formula" that I know of.
Also, as with romantic relationships, I think it's okay if everything doesn't stay new and exciting forever. Longevity brings other compensations, IMHO. I have tried not to be one of those people who just swaps out friends like they're shoes that don't feel as comfortable as they did when I was Twenty.
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I'm on another board where one veteran poster has been trolling me for three months, almost from the day I started posting. She's a Grade-A jerk, who accused me of being a sockpuppet for various other women posters who she disliked. If other posters are to be believed, she made these now ex-posters so miserable that they left that particular community for good.
I told her after the initial troll that I wasn't interested in her accusations, and that my personal life was none of her damn business. I also told her that I would not be responding to her posts again at any point in the future. I have kept this vow.
But Great Dog Almighty, I wish she'd back off already and go find a new pigeon. Three blasted months of her paranoid, gibbering crap?! Gah.
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Tell me about it, IB. :/
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I am still sick after two weeks. I slept in until 2 today and yesterday ... I am still hanging on to my work schedule though since I can do most of it anytime I want and fortunately my meetings have been in the late afternoon!
enough already!
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